A: Interesting question. When you retain an attorney, the attorney will typically draft and file documents. Once that is done, the other attorneys would see that you have counsel of record. Theoretically speaking in a vacuum, if you retain an attorney, that attorney should not represent an adverse party. So, again, theoretically speaking, retaining thirty attorneys should mean that all thirty attorneys should not represent the adverse party. In reality, this could be a huge problem. For example, if someone were to use marital funds and attempt to do this, the court could most likely sanction such party and treat this as a dissipation of assets. Further, for someone to attempt to do this, such person would have to ensure that every single attorney were conflicted out, there are simply too many attorneys in Florida, in Alachua County, in Gainesville, to attempt to do this. Further, many, many attorneys will practice family (divorce) law, and may not advertise it as his or her main area of practice. Overall, it would be a terrible game plan.
A: The person that you are dating really would not be able to adopt easily at this time. If you were to marry, it would be a step-parent/close relative adoption which is a different procedure than a step-parent adoption. The Court typically will not approve of a termination of parental rights absent something like a step-parent adoption as it is considered against public policy.
A: Typically the answer would be "no." The Court system is involved and there should be orders in place that govern the status of each party. I agree with my colleague that meeting with a highly qualified attorney would be appropriate.