A: Perhaps is the most accurate answer I can provide. Much depends on the judge's temperament, how cooperative you've otherwise been with your PO and what the prosecutor view is of you. Do you have a significant criminal history? That will be very influential to the judge and prosecutor. I suggest that you get ahead of this after by securing a local criminal defense attorney who can file a motion to terminate probation BEFORE you are violated. This attorney can best plead your case to the judge. Don't wait on this or you'll likely be violated and waiting a month or more in jail for a hearing. Good luck!
A: Best to inform the detective that you do not wish to proceed any further with the case. If your ex has been arrested, it gets a little more complicated as resources have been expended. If you gave a sworn verbal or written statement, law enforcement or the prosecutor may pressure you, especially if your ex has a lengthy criminal record. They may even threaten you with filing a false police report or with perjury. So, don't try to change your story of what happened. Instead, insist on completing a Waiver of Prosecution. As a victim, you do have rights. If it gets too difficult to remove yourself from the case, hire a lawyer to speak on your behalf. Good luck!